Q&A

First of all, I need to start by thanking everyone. Mike and I were blown away with the amount of love and support we have received the past few days. Seriously – every comment, text, phone call, and message meant the world to us. I (being the anxious one) was nervous for people’s thoughts and reactions, and after all the feedback it is so clear to me why God did not want us to go through this process alone. My words cannot express the gratitude I have for all of you. My heart is full. 

I did not expect to post again so quickly, but I have been asked a lot of the same questions. So here we go: 

How are you feeling?

Inadequate, excited, nervous, unprepared, joyful. Ask me again tomorrow. I’ve have had so many people talk about how wonderful we are to do this – but that is not true. We are not wonderful. We are sinners that fail daily. There is nothing special about us that makes us able to do this. I’ll go ahead and speak for myself and say that I am a hot mess 90% (confession: I started this post last night and put 75%, after today I felt the need to edit it) of the time. But I think that’s okay. God uses imperfect people. 

We want this process to be about Him. We feel called to this – and that calling is from the God that redeemed us.

What will work look like? 

Well, we are lucky enough to live in a state where the foster care system pays most daycare costs. If anything is not covered, we would use our stipend to cover the rest. Mike and I will both continue to work full time. However, as many of you know, we work very different hours. We only plan to utilize a daycare or babysitter about six hours a week during the school year. Summer will look different – but we have not talked about it because only God knows if we will be certified by then 🙂 

How long until we are certified?

We honestly don’t know. The absolute earliest we could be certified is April. This would only happen if everything went perfectly: our paperwork was processed quickly, we were invited to join the next training group, no snow to cancel training days, our home was approved, interviews and references go through right away, etc. We are waiting for now. We have sent in our paperwork and it is (hopefully) being processed as I type this. When/if it is approved, we will be invited to join a training group. The next training begins at the end of February. After that, I believe it is April. Which is why we are unsure how long the process will take. We’ve talked to a lot of people and they have told us it can take anywhere from 3 months to a year. 

What age children do you want?

For now, we plan on accepting up to two children ages 0-5. Our original plan was one, but there is a huge need for foster parents to take sibling groups. We chose 0-5 to start but eventually want to be open to 0-10, and then older as we get older. I was surprised to hear that the biggest need as far as ages is 0-3, followed by 13 and up.

How will you give them up?

By praying, crying, and trusting.

Becoming Foster Parents

A new blog deserves big news, so here it is: In 2016, Mike and I hope to become foster parents! Fostering and adopting has been placed on our hearts and we feel called to pursue this adventure this year. To us, there is no clearer picture of the Lord’s love for us than foster care and adoption. The Bible says that we are all adopted. Paul writes, “He predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will—to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves” (Ephesians 1:5-6). God chose us – and what a blessing that is! We feel called to help children in need know what it’s like to feel chosen.

Speaking of need, that is why we are doing this. As most of you know, I’m obsessed with children. And I want to be a mom. Like yesterday. Praying for my husband and our future family, I could not stop thinking about how many children are in need of a home. Fostering kept coming up: on TV, in the news, at church, in my devotionals. I chalked it up to coincidence, until God started opening and closing some doors (that’s a story for another time). At our first informational meeting, we learned that in our county there are 500 foster children, and 150 foster homes. Need. It’s as simple as that. These children need a home, they need to feel loved, and they need to feel safe. We have a home, two extra bedrooms, and a whole lotta love to give.

Will this be hard? Yes. Are we a little crazy? Yes. How will you love them and let them go? I have no idea. But someone has to. There is something so beautiful about the foster system: it’s all about reunification of families. The goal is to take something that is broken and redeem it. Another picture of the Gospel. Becoming foster parents will give us the opportunity to spread Christ’s love not only to children, but also to their families. While we would love to one day adopt (whether it be through the foster care system or not), our first prayer is for God to heal families and bring them back together.

Something I want to make clear: We are in the very early stages of this process. Things could go wrong; we have mounds of paperwork, home studies, interviews, and lots more to get through. It’s a long road ahead of us. However, we are trusting God through it all. Mike and I talked a LOT about whether or not we would make this process “public” or if we would wait until we were certified to let people know. In an effort to be as transparent and open as possible, we decided to not only share our journey – but to document it. We know that we will need love, support, and prayer from our friends and family throughout this process. We also want people to be able to learn about the foster care system through us.

Feel free to ask any questions that you may have. Can’t promise I’ll know the answer – but I can try 🙂

“We love because He first loved us.” 1 John 4:19